Why wont he see me?
This blog really has nothing to do with fitness at all but is just a way for me to let some emotion and confusing thoughts out. If anyone wants to offer some input, that would be great. Seems that I have fallen for a friend. We’ve been friends for three years, actually, he has been my manager for the past couple of years but also a friend on the side. He has recently quit and as a result, me and him and a couple of other friends have become better friends because of it. Now, seems I am finding myself thinking more and more about him. Spending more and more time with him and wanting to spend more. Ironically, this all started with sex. Yea, a bit backwards. A couple of weeks back we both needed to get laid and after a night of talking we ended up sleeping together. It was then we started hanging out more and more, as friends, and now all this hanging out together has created these feelings, at least on my end. Oh boy. What to do? If I tell him, I am taking a huge risk. I may ruin friendships and I do not want to be responsible for breaking apart the current friendship with have with each other and our other two good friends. *sigh*
He is somewhat broken-hearted, coming out of a long term relationship a couple of months ago. Looking and looking for whose next but just wont see what’s right in front of him. What do I have to do for you to see me? Why do you have to look so far for something so damn close?
*sigh* I used to think that it was totally possibly for guys and girls to be just friends but that seems to not always work out. Seems like I’m about to lose a good friend thanks to some complicated emotions. Oh feelings! For now, I’m going to go lose my sorrows at the gym.
Thank god for the gym.
March 9, 2009 at 11:31 am
Let him heal first. You dont want him to call you just for sex, you want a relationship. Don’t become the stop gap. If its good, he will realize and come to you. Thank goodness for the gym.
March 9, 2009 at 11:36 am
Most guys don’t catch the hints we give. You have to spell it out for them and even then it’s still iffy if they get it.
March 9, 2009 at 11:44 am
Ditto w/ hdjedi1. Catching a guy on the rebound never works. And getting physical, esp right now, just throws a wrench in the emotions.
The best (and long lasting) relationships have friendship as the foundation. You’ve got that. I’d ditch the physical relations if you want to have a chance at something down the road.
PS: bull.dogz is right though. We guys are a little slow……..
March 9, 2009 at 11:46 am
I say tell him how you feel, it may be scary and he may reject you but you cant just always wonder "what if" he may feel the same way and if you dont speak up you many miss out on something really special! life is too short to sit around and wait
March 9, 2009 at 12:15 pm
How good are you at catching bouncing things? hdjecdi, and Al have said it all. Sounds like you have a great friendship. Continue to develop that ; the rest will follow.
beekpr1
March 9, 2009 at 3:25 pm
Thanks everyone.
As soon as I realized I has some emotions, I decided no more sex. Originally it was something that JUST happened. It wont happen again. I am just flip flopping between whether I should tell him or just continue to be a good friend…