What makes male a Man?
I’d like to rant about what is it that makes male a Man. True Man. Sometimes it’s called Alpha Male… I wonder because I’m still young and honestly, I ever new what word "Man" means really. What characteristics and qualities make a man. Why some men are leaders, attract hottest females, biggest money and respect from other people and why others attract neither? And most importantly how do I become a Man, a man who walks into the room and people go " Wow, this guy is something or he is gonna become something! I’ve got to meet him and be his friend!". I found that BodyBuilding.cm has Manformation blog and podcasts which talk about very important topics for men. All men! I encourage everyone to listen to it:)
In my young, still fresh opinion (I started wondering about it just a year or a bit more ago) a Man is
1.Confident and not arrogant
2.Generous but still selfish (you can’t give something you don’t have, so you gotta be selfish some)
3.Compassionate but not sensitive ( this one is big… I thought that new age Man should be sensitive because that’s what women seem to want a lot when they tell that we as men should become more open and in touch with our feelings). But I noticed that when a man is sensitive he is a WUSSY, Loser… and that is not a Man’s quality.. and it was a paradox to me. On logical level maybe it’s good and a bit useful to be sensitive..but…. it doesn’t work…sounds like a weakness to me now. Then few days ago I heard word compassionate.. yeah that fits better… you may be a strong man but you wont beat a weak guy just to feel stronger than him. You know that it’s harder to be weak and you may stand up for the weaker..
4. I-Don’t-Give-A-Shit-what-others-think and I-take-what’s-mine attitude. This one is probably the secpnd biggest and most important Man’s characteristic… If a man is careful about other’s opinions and he doesn’t go after what he wants then he is not really a Man…If I was to stop working out and start partying around and drinking with my friends a lot because they think I’m stupid for not drinking and partying I’d feel bad and I’d have betrayed THE most important quality of a man which is….
5. Being on a Mission. Don’t know why but it’s so BIG… I heard once a comparing between men and women which struck me even though it’s a bit funny: "When a woman goes to the toilet to pee, she just sits down and looks around. Easy. But a man comes and he has to AIM! Not stand just whispering around ( I know it’s funny…) It’s silly, but I now agree that a Man must have something to aim at. He might not reach it, but he must give 200 percent to reach it and nothing can stand in his way. No woman, no man, not money, not anything..
6. Courage. This is connected to 4th and 5th qualities directly. A Man must dare to take action even if he’s afraid. And a courageous man is one who does things he is afraid to do not a man who is afraid of nothing…
7. Taking action. It’s so simple. Yet so hard to do…Get out of your comfort zone!
8. Be physically erect. Ok, not walking with your buddy down there erect but walking tall, confident, with swagger, charizma… It’s purely body language thing and it tells a lot about a man.
9. Honor, respect and values. Life some code you create for yourself. Have your values. The best example of this topic is movie "300". It left a huge impression on me about what is honor, respect and values. Live by them and die by them if needed.
10. Respect yourself. Huge importance too… Man has got to trust himself and be positive..
11. Constant improvement. Whether it was in you chosen career, in bodybuilding or in self-improvement. Best would be in all fields though. Because there is always next level…
If anyone has something to add, I’d appreciate if you did 
Adrian
August 16, 2008 at 3:31 pm
Well, you just described my husband with those good qualities. Keep them in mind. And best of all, be yourself!
August 16, 2008 at 11:34 pm
Lucky gal
August 20, 2008 at 11:41 am
I don’t see room for much improvement to your list. I especially like Compassionate but not sensitive. You hit the nail on the head with that one. Feel free to express your opinions on what makes a woman. I will start it off…..A woman should be strong, but not so strong she never accepts help. She must be as fierce as a lioness and as when neccessary, as soft as a bunny.
August 20, 2008 at 11:50 am
Good idea… I’ll make one tomorrow
Some women might not like it I think 
August 24, 2008 at 2:13 pm
A man is not exactly that. If one study a bit on cultural stuff, one may encounter there is a science that is called anthropology. This science might be quite imperfect, but the right thing it says is that genre, that is, male and female are just a human invention. That is, that what is a male or what is a female is just in the head of the thinker, and in the heads of the society that wash the children’s brain, so they can start saying stupidity about what is, or what it is not a male or a female.
After this intellectual introduction, I will post this comment with some more stuff, so the blogger that seems to want to think on this complicated matter, can have some more material to think a bit more:
- A person (doesn’t matter if male or female) has his/her own personal conception of human perfection. So this means perfection is not static, but moving, and changing, just as thoughts that come and go. One day perfection is this, the other day, perfection has changed and it’s entirely different. Let’s say: perfection is to have an iron abs. Well, it’s not that easy, but somewhat possible. The day you start being perfect, you see yourself on the mirror: - What a hell of butts are those recovered and protected by a thick lipid thing? Yours, my dear, yours…
- So the second point starts where the other is finished: Your butts. So now, perfection changes to have an iron butts… That’s it’s a part of the always changed sense of perfection, and an insatiable ambition of whatever is perfect.
- Part of the insatiable human thirst for being perfect in what he/she desires on perfection, there is insatiable ambition, so much that we all, want it all, and if possible, right now.
So now, we’re going back to your post:
You wrote about "sensitivity". I think this word is very strange and has many meanings, that surely I cannot say anything about it. But talking about sensation/sensitivity there are three basic perspectives:
1. Just sensing, viewing, touching, etc.
2. Being too picky, too sensitivity, too intolerable, weepy, stupid.
3. Being sensitive in the sense of sharing, solidarity, helpful with others who suffer, being tollerant.
I trully don’t know what women nor men want, but surely it’s not important. You can only work on yourself, for yourself. And by interacting with others, you can only try to choose to be with those you feel good with. So, the best thing is to choose people you share more or less the same principles and senses of perfection you have. This way, you always have something in common, and frustration will not come to the relationship.
With this I mean that is impossible to know what "women" or what "men" wants, you have to take them one by one to know it!
For example, for me perfection is changeable, but it has some things that are not:
- Assuming that one can change.
- Assuming one’s mistakes, and try not to repeat them!
- Be honest with yourself, with your mirror, with others, with your cat as well.
- Never trust those who want to make you dependable.
- Never want to fit in the owner/slave insane type relationships (at work, home, leisure or anything). This means respect for oneself, and respect for others.
- Respect others’ independence (men or women), and never try to alienate anyone, nor to let others alienate you.
Now, one might be strong, but that doesn’t means he/she has to beat anyone, nor to show everybody how proud one is of oneself.
So resuming: don¡t really complicate yourself too much on thinking, just live, do what you want (no matter what you do, some will put you tramps, or eventually may help you to get your goals done), don’t fit in any role, try to help everybody if possible but without hurting yourself. So for me is "if it’s good for me and you like it, it suits you, and you have the possibility to do it too, then it’s also good for you". If not, nice to meet you, good luck and goodbye!!!
I think you are very educated in what a man or a woman should be, and simple things like visiting the toilet can get a sense of life. Well, that’s not true. All women need also a mission, because all humans needs to. The pity is that women were slaves since some decades, so now they have become somewhat hysterical on achieving rights, and they are still very unsecure on themselves.
Well, one day ladies will calm themselves, and also men will understand that there’s no reason to be dominant. The best thing is to destroy dominant/slavery relationships, all those are insane!
So women, just as men, needs everything, both have ambition, wants to be themselves, without stupid critics of the society around.
So now, enough said, be yourself, build yourself as you want: physically, intellectually, spiritually and in all the aspects you want, because you can, and you are free to do it. I’ll do the same! Even if it takes 15 years more or just the second before dying!
-hell, I’m writing too much, thinking too much, and my head will EXPLODE!!!! Time to workout!!!! byes!!
August 24, 2008 at 8:36 pm
Wow..long post
Mission for men men mean way more than it does for women. A main woman’s mission in my opinion is to create and take care (nurture ec.) of family (children). Man must provide for family and protect it..
Women were slaves? Ummm… no..that depends on attitude. Back in those days women didn’t complain about it. Now they complain but they already have equal rights and possibilities. But don’t make men and women the same… if the dominant/subservient type of relationships didn’t work NONE of us would be here… It’s not about being domineering also, I say dominant I don’t mean wife beating *******, I mean man who takes a lead and dominates in his life to get what he wants. If you think there’s no such thing as masculine and feminine then your are wrong. Maybe you are brainwashed with socially correct ideas… And there is one old truth - the ladies may tell they want something but it doesn’t matter what hey say because they don’t know what they want really… It’s not an insult to women, it’s just that their instincts are different from what they say sometimes (and a lot of times…)
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