Being the Lone Wolf
This questions has been in my head for some time. All of that Alpha/Beta male stuff is pretty true in my opinion, even though some say humans are not animals and those types doesn’t apply to us. Well, guess what? It does, we are freakin’ animals.There will always be people who leads, who follows. Those who get what they want and those who don’t. Those who are strong and those who are weak… Doesn’t sound fair.. but this world isn’t fair! It won’t be. It’s not ideal world where everyone is equal. And honestly, I just recently accepted this fact. Until I did, I was frustrated, unhappy with this world, feeling that I was mistreated by the world…And now I know I can be whatever I want.. be it alpha, be it beta male, be it lone wolf.
And from those three types, I’m a lone wolf. I don’t mind being alone. Being on my own, not taking orders from anyone on how to live my life. I’m not so restrained by the social standards as I was when I was a child and tried to be part of my class/neighborhood/social circle. I love being with friends, partying or sharing problems but I don’t need that. If there is a chance I’ll use it, but I’m not the one who constantly tries to create those chances. Although I know that if I wanted, I’d create it..
So being a lone wolf is good for me, but people around don’t really get it. If you say that you like being alone, then you are unfriendly according to them. They don’t understand that there is more than two choises: you want friends or you don’t. There is another one: wanting, but not needing.
Sometimes wonder is it healthy(psychologically) to be lone wolf. Is it a form of rebel? Or is it a normal thing? In animals, lone wolf can be the one who is rejected from the group for being weak or the one who is the biggest opponent to the alpha male and he can cause possible harm for alpha. Is it something "wrong" with people who are lone wolfs. Most people like to follow and some follow secretly wanting to lead and overtake the power from alpha. I in the mean time, don’t need to be the ONE always, don’t to be in center of attention. I like it I wont deny but I wont be the one who will constantly take the lead in a group. I will hang back and if things go bad, I will take matters in my own hands.
Maybe the lone wolf is the same alpha male? It’s just the difference of being introverted (lone wolf) vs extroverted (alpha)…
And having spent some time here, it looks like people here tend to be lone wolfs too. Or not? 
Adrian
