Keep Reaching
I watched one of The Biggest Loser contestants struggle through cardio last night.
All he had to make was a five minute run. That’s it. Nothing more and nothing less.
Doesn’t sound like much until you factor in his obesity. It would be like someone strapping a few hundred pound plates on me and telling me to run for five minutes.
But it was the fear that kept derailing him.
He was worried his knees or his ankles would give way.
And when Jillian asked him what the problem was, he admitted that he just couldn’t see himself as a normal size person.
And if I could get to that boy, I would tell him this. “You have to act like a normal size person long before you see yourself as one.”
I went to buy some shoes today, which meant I had to get an outfit to go with them. Right?!
I had a black pair of pants and a black shirt.
And I headed straight to the black boots I was after.
And this wonderfully sassy lady looks at me and says, “Honey. No. You’ve got to get yourself some color. Why are you getting all that black? Are you in mourning or something?”
And I wanted to say, “Hello. Fat girl buying clothes! Black is slimming you know.”
Only, I’m not fat! I just never dropped that habit.
Then I went to Wal-Mart to buy some pantyhose. And before I knew it, the plus size ones were in my hand. (I haven’t bought any in a LOOONG time!)
But when I heard that young man say he just couldn’t see himself any other way, I knew what he meant.
Because even now, I have a hard time seeing it myself.
In the beginning, I put picture of others around my mirror. I just couldn’t see myself thin.
But one by one the pictures came down as my esteem came up.
I crossed over long ago.
I put the plus size hose down, and I listened to the sassy lady and bought a splash of color. Hot pink to be exact.
And I will E-mail that contestant later today and tell him:
“Just keep acting thin. Whether you feel it, believe it or see it. It all works out in the end.
Besides…it’s really fun putting those plus size clothes back down.
And if you only reach for what you can see, you’re going to miss a lot of things. Some of the best stuff in this world is just out of sight, waiting to be found.
Keep reaching. Even if you think it’s not there, don’t quit reaching.”






January 28, 2009 at 5:32 am
I must admit that I still do the same thing. My big thing is my posture. I sometimes catch myself self standing with my gut protruding out only now I don’t have a gut to stick out so I have to remind myself to stand up straight.
January 29, 2009 at 3:30 am
Hot pink boots would suit you!
January 29, 2009 at 5:25 am
It’s tough to shake your self-image, especially if it was established during your formative years. I still haven’t managed to stop seeing myself the way I was 10, 15 years ago. How do you do it?
January 29, 2009 at 6:31 am
You do that by reminding yourself before you enter any room that no one has permission to steal your good day, your positive outlook, or joy without YOUR permission. And you make eye contact with at least one more person every day. And it just comes.
January 29, 2009 at 11:49 am
I watch The Biggest Loser every week and I could totally relate to that contestant too. Our beliefs about ourselves hold us back. Jillian wouldn’t have asked him to run 5 minutes if she knew he couldn’t do it. If he can work out for 6 hours, he can run for 5 minutes. I used to think "no way can i RUN for an entire mile". One mile seemed SO long to me and I figured only "athletes" can do that. Now i’m up to running 4. And I am working towards 13…and I know I can do it.
January 29, 2009 at 12:44 pm
sometimes changing our minds images of ourselves is even harder than changing our body’s appearance.